The Pointe

Unlike years gone by, few if any will leave their wedding reception with a shower of rice.

By the mid-1990s, it was common knowledge that the uncooked rice would kill unsuspecting birds. The rice would swell in their stomachs, cause them to burst, and cause a tragic death.
So the tradition of rice, superstitiously believed to foster fertility, was abandoned and alternatives like birdseed, confetti, and bubbles were established.

Ironically, there is no truth to the idea that rice is a threat to birds.

Miyoko Chu, a Cornell University ornithologist (awni thologist), has stated there are no documented cases of birds dying as a result of eating rice. She says, “In fact, house sparrows, red-winged blackbirds and bobolinks eat it all the time in the wild.”

Weddings and marriage are surrounded by so many myths.

If a whole country can be duped by misinformation about rice, how many more people are being confounded by the idea that when they get married, they will live happily ever after; no arguing or fighting, because, let’s face it, they are madly in love, and they will have the perfect marriage.

People still have dreams of the perfect marriage.  I call them Valentine Dreams.  It is possible, but it certainly takes work.  But then again, anything worth having - takes work!

“In a Harvard study of several hundred preschoolers, researchers discovered an interesting phenomenon. As they taped the children’s playground conversation, they realized that all the sounds coming from little girls’ mouths were recognizable words. However, only 60 percent of the sounds coming from little boys were recognizable. The other 40 percent were yells and sound effects like “Vrrrooooom!” “Aaaaagh!” “Toot toot!” This difference persists into adulthood.

“Communication experts say that the average woman speaks over 25,000 words a day while the average man speaks only a little over 10,000. What does this mean in marital terms? . . . On average a wife will say she needs to spend 45 minutes to an hour each day in meaningful conversation with her husband. What does her husband sitting next to her say is enough time for meaningful conversation? Fifteen to twenty minutes–once or twice a week! “
 
Guys, the work we put into our marriages takes a lot of time.  The reason men feel like it’s hard work is because we don’t feel like we have that kind of time.  As soon as conversation breaks out, we feel as if there is something else we should be doing.  To your lady, there is nothing else more important.  

We just need to know the differences, we don’t have to understand them all.  What do YOU think?